2 You Can Win Over Life
“The Time Calls You Now…!”
-Author by :D. Ramachandra Raju.”
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” Who are Buddha, Jesus,Vivekananda and Gandhi,” Savitri asks her husband.
“They are all great people,” replies Nageswara Rao.
“Why are they considered great?”
“They are great because they have won over themselves.
They have exceptional self control.”
“Aren’t they human beings like us?”
“Can you then win over yourselves and develop selfcontrol?”
Nageswara Rao stands speechless at their poser.
This is a classic scene from yesteryear blockbuster Sumangali. In Sumangali, Nageswara Rao, the lecturer, falls for his student Savitri and marries her. On the day when their marriage was to be consummated, Nageswara Rao slips and falls from the college building. He injures himself seriously in the process. After he recovers, Nageswara Rao begins to chase Savitri for consummating the marriage. Savitri keeps evading him. Unable to bear this rejection, Nageswara Rao scolds her, beats her and confronts her with probing questions as to why she was evading him. Savitri suffers in silence.
To develop self-control, she begins to take bland food and takes cold shower to control her sexual urges. Unable to fathom why she was spurning him, Nageswara Rao harasses her in ways more than one. Finally, when Nageswara Rao confronts her, she asks him the above question and then thrusts a piece of paper into his hand before leaving. That was a medical advice given by the doctor who treated his injury. It says sexual union could have deleterious impact on his health. Nageswara Rao then realizes his wife’s sacrifice. He then realizes what a fool he was to torment her.
He understands that Savitri was in fact striving to save him.Now tell me! Can you win over self? What does winning over self mean? What should you be winning over? Life is a journey that calls for moving ahead and ahead. Move forward through the deepest of forests and darkest of hours despite fears and worries. Walk along all alone! This journey is sweet, sour, tough and easy, happy and sorrowful. Yes! One can win over self provided one believes that one can win. I watched a TV programme titled “You can Dance…
Yes… You can dance if you think.” Yes! You can dance if you think you can. You can win over self, if you think you can. You may say it is quite possible to win over self. You may also say it is impossible to win over self. You said it was possible. It was you who said it was impossible. “If you think you can. If you think you can’t . You are right.” – Roosevelt.Can a girl whose legs have been amputated dance? Everyone said it was impossible. But one girl did it and that became the stuff of a cineme titled “Mayuri.” That girl was Sudha Chandran.
A hundred years ago, everyone said landing on moon was impossible. The man achieved this impossible dream. Everyone said scoring 100 centuries was humanly impossible till Sachin proved them wrong. If you think you can, you can. You must have heard this many a time. You would have said this to someone. But, how about you? Don’t you have faith in yourselves? Aren’t you aware of your capabilities? If you knew your capabilities, why did you not try? Didn’t you know how to do it? You did not know because you have never tried to do it. Why did you not try? You did not try because you did not feel like trying. Why did you not feel like trying? Because you did not know your strength! Martin Luther King, the leader of the American Blacks! His words had electrified countless millions. He made his people aware of their rights and roused them to get their rights.
He said :
“If you can’t fly try to run
If you cannot run, try to walk
If you cannot walk, try to move
If you can’t move, then crawl
But keep on moving towards your goal.”
The Turks attacked India 17 times and were repulsed every time. They could win only in their 18th attempt. This is part of the history text book that you must have definitely read.
Try again and again until you succeed Arise, awake and stop not till the goal is reached. Perseverance, grit, determination….is what is needed. Most of us must have either read or heard the epic Mahabharat. A teenaged tribal boy came to Drona to learn the art of archery from him. Drona refused to teach Shudras. The boy did not wail or wallop. He went back, practiced hard and became a master of archery. Unbelievable … but true! He was Ekalavya. When legendary singer Ghantasala went to the music directors, they said his voice was utterly unsuitable for playback singing. Poems rendered by legendary poet Sri Sri were rejected by some editors. When Amitabh Bachchan wanted to act in films, a fabled director not just spurned him, but also insulted him by asking him to have a real good look in the mirror to see for self whether he was fit to appear on cameras Amitabh preferred not to have a look at the mirror. Instead he went on to become a super hero. The mementoes in his drawing room speak for what he means to countless Indians. Famousmusic director MS Viswanatam told SP Balasubramanyam that he would be given singing assignments if only he knew Tamil. With dogged determination, Balu mastered Tamil and went on to become a rage in Tamil playback singing. Make an effort. You can become a master.
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What is winning over? Achieving what you want to achieve. Leading from the front. Winning is doing what everyone likes. Winning is striving for the others. Yes. People win over themselves. Marilyn Manroe won by her incomparable beauty. Aiswarya Rai won with her beauty and histrionics. Socrates won with his power of questioning. Alexander won with his courage to overcome. Jesus won with his mercy and grace. Vivekananda won with his voice and the word. Tata won with his business acumen. Bill Gates and Narayana Murthy won with their intellect. Rafi, Ghantasala and Latha won with their mercurial voice. Gandhi won with his non-violence. Mother Teresa won with her compassion for the uncared. Netaji won with his sheer sense of patriotism. Alluri Seetarama Raju won with his valour.
NTR achieved it his pouranic roles, while ANR won with the portrayal of social roles. Kamal Hasan won by excelling in which ever role was offered to him. Sibi and Dharmaraja won with their keen sense of dharma. Buddha won by sacrificing everything in search of peace and happiness. Mahavira won by shunning royalty and serving the poor. Harischandra won with his fastidiousness for truth.Valentine won with his love for the loved one. You may not become as great as these people. Yet, you can achieve what you can proudly proclaim to others. Yes… with some regulations, some practice, some patience, some perseverance, some dogged determination not to fall to allurements and some valour, you can achieve.
Vidura says :
The exalted ones understand the ways of the world.
They strive to the best of their abilities.
They do not sit idle.
They do not leave their tasks midway.
They are not affected by respect or disrespect.
Such people are always like the solemn and quiet-flowing
Ganges. Famous writer Gollapudi Maruti Rao says in his novel ‘Sayamkaalamaindi.’
“Great are those who take life as it comes. Greater are those who mould the life to suit them.”
There are several persons who rose to the pinnacle. For them sky is the limit and they strove hard and worked cleverly.Such people are all around us. One only has to open one’s eyes and seek them. They did not remain satisfied with what they got. They walked the extra mile. That ….. is winning over self. You shall succeed only when you compete. You shall come through in flying colours only when you take the exam. You shall survive only when you work hard. Think and be what you want. Think and you shall win. Strive and you shall achieve. Strain your nerves and you shall reap the results. Make tireless effort your weapon. Victory will sure become your servant. Fight and die fighting. Countless millions, nameless and faceless, perished without even putting up a fight. A quitter never wins. A winner never quits. Stand up, fight and be counted. Fight to the last. “Most of the people fail, not because they lack knowledge and talent But because they quit. Our greatest glory consists not in never failing, But in rising every time we fall,” said Goldsmith.
Fabled film producer B Nagireddy lost heavily in filmmaking. There was no money to make films anymore. For him, however, moving away from film-making meant death. He went to his friend Ramana Reddy and asked him to lend Rs one lakh. “I shall make a classic. If I make money, you shall get back your money. If I fail, take it as a bad investment,” he told Ramana Reddy. Ramana Reddy did give him money. Nagi Reddy went on to make ‘Mayabazaar’. It proved to be a blockbuster. He became the uncrowned king of Telugu movie world. The rest,as they say, is history. He and Chakrapani ran Chandamama magazine successfully in 14 laguages and set up the famed Vijaya Studios, which today is Vijaya Hospitals in Madras. A young man left his home turf to reach Madras. He wanted to become a celluloid hero, but failed to become one. He made a few movies and all of them bombed at the box office. He suffered huge losses. As a last resort, he went back to Tenali, his native place, convinced his father to sell off part of their landed asset and produced ‘Ramudu Bheemudu.’ The film was a huge hit. He went on to make over more than hundred films and became a hero among producers. You know who managed to win over their lives. You too want to become one, only that you are not giving it a sincere and honest try. Some die without even thinking of putting up a fight. Some begin the fight but develop cold feet midway like Uttara Kumara Many more go to the threshold of success, but lose the will to continue.
Only one per cent among them continues the fight till the last and overcomes. May people undertake indefinite fast, but Potti Sriramulu alone went on to become Amara Jeevi ie, the immortal. Long years ago, a person had set out to spread grace and mercy and went on to become the King of Kings, He is Jesus.Cicero, the Greek philosopher, says: “Patience is key to success.”
Lack of patience is the bane of the world and has caused several problems. It is this patience that helped Nelson Mandela endure 26 long years of incarceration. It is this patience that made Aung San Suu Kyi a Nobel laureate. Pandavas’ invincibility was due mainly to their patience. Non-violence and patience helped Gandhi drive away the white masters from India. In a queer circumstance, a girl is forced to marry her elder sister’s husband. Who was a drunkard, gambler and womaniser. The elder sister dies. Her daughter would become mother-less if she did not step in. Also, she has to give her younger sister in marriage, as she had already become pregnant before marriage. Her family is heavily debt-ridden. She had no alternative but to marry him as that was the only way out for her family.
So she marries him. But, within a year, she transforms him totally and moulds her family. She manages to solve every problem. This is the story of Mandakini, penned by Malladi Venkata Krishna Murthy. It is a must-read for every homemaker. There are many such drunkard husbands. But, if one makes a determined effort, one can transform them. In fact, this is the theme of Nageswara Rao-Savitri starrer Ardhangi, where an able homemaker changes her weak-willed husband as a hero. Nothing comes from without. All things come from within, says Nerille Goddard. Yes, nothing comes without making an effort. The urge has to come from within. That alone can bring about the desired change.
In old classic movies, haven’t you seen a powerful person like SV Ranga Rao dutifully toeing the line of strong-willed Suryakantham? Some tact and some cleverness are enough to change a husband who has fallen in bad ways. She can tease and taunt him in bed and make him come around. Tears, goodness and sweet-talking are enough to change an adamant and short-tempered husband. You would have seen several women who could do this successfully in your neighbourhood. You may not win the war, but can always win battles, however small they might be. Jesus said: “Everything is possible for the person who believes.” You may have won several such battles but may have never noticed them till now. See those successes now.
You would have won a couple of points in a game of Kabaddi. Your friend must have congratulated you. You may have shared your lunch pack with a hungry friend. He may have thanked you in gratitude. You would have won his heart. You may have instilled courage in a friend when he was in despair. You may have consoled a terminally ill patient and made his eyes shine bright. You may have patted a boy who ran and fell. You may have lived a happy and healthy life at 95. The girl you wanted has fallen for another and you chivalrously wished “Best of Luck” to her. That again is a success. While on a walk, you chance upon a valuable that someone may have lost. You trace the owner and restore it to them. They appreciated you wholeheartedly. Even that is a victory of sorts. If you can achieve such successes all through the live, you may have won your life. Isn’t this possible?”In this world All are born equal But some are genius, why? The geniuses are not born, but they are made,” thus said Gandhi. Tagore said“ his life is heavens, who gets up every morning with a beam of moonlight in the eye.” Yes. You feel happy when you learn something new. Success comes when you begin everything with a positive attitude. For this, you need to be happy. What is happiness? “Success is not the key for happiness. Happiness is the key to success”, said Nobel peace prize winner Albert Schweitzer.
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Here is a Paulo Coelho story taken from his book ‘The Alchemist.’ A merchant sent his son to learn the Secret of Happiness from the wisest of men. The young man wandered through the desert for forty hours until he reached a beautiful castle at the top of a mountain. There lived the sage that the young man was looking for. However, instead of finding a holy man, our hero entered a room and saw a great deal of activity; merchants coming and going, people chatting in the corners, a small orchestra playing sweet melodies, and there was a table laden with the most delectable dishes of that part of the world. The wise man talked to everybody, and the young man had to wait for two hours until it was time for his audience.
The Sage listened attentively to the reason for the boy’s visit, but told him that at that moment he did not have the time to explain to him the Secret of Happiness. He suggested that the young man take a stroll around his palace and come back in two hours’ time. “However, I want to ask you a favor,” he added, handing the boy a teaspoon, in which he poured some drops of oil. “While you walk, carry this spoon and don’t let the oil spill.” The young man began to climb up and down the palace staircases, always keeping his eyes fixed on the spoon. At the end of two hours he returned to the presence of the wise man. “So,” asked the sage, “did you see the Persian tapestries hanging in my dining room? Did you see the garden that the Master of Gardeners took ten years to create? Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?” Embarrassed, the young man confessed that he had seen nothing. His only concern was not to spill the drops of oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.
“So, go back and see the wonders of my world,” said the wise man. “You can’t trust a man if you don’t know his house.” Now more at ease, the young man took the spoon and strolled again through the palace, this time paying attention to all the works of art that hung from the ceiling and walls. He saw the gardens, the mountains all around the palace, the delicacy of the flowers, the taste with which each work of art was placed in its niche. Returning to the sage, he reported in detail all that he had seen.”But where are the drops of oil that I entrusted to you?”asked the sage.Looking down at the spoon, the young man realized that he had spilled the oil. “Well, that is the only advice I have to give you,” said the sage of sages. “The Secret of Happiness lies in looking at all the wonders of the world and never forgetting the two drops of oil in the spoon.” Someone said : If you want to enjoy amonthGo abroad and enjoy the tour If you want to enjoy aweek Go to Ooty with your sweety, enjoy the trip.
If you want to enjoy aday Go to the nearest picnic spot, enjoy the day.If you want to enjoy threehours Go to film with your family or friends enjoy the scenes, dialogues and dances. If you want to enjoyan hour Go to your lover, have sweet nothings But if you want to enjoyyour life I repeat, if you want to enjoyyour life Enjoy your life..work. Chandramouli, who said this. Lord Krishna said“ work is worship”. There are a lot of people for whom work is the only thing that they know. They enjoy work and derive satisfaction from work. Work, for them, is worship
What Would You Say….
What about those who could win over their lives?
Those who can leash their minds, can always win.
Try and try… you shall achieve.
Work hard, you shall reap the fruits of success.
Win over your life….
A work that begins with enthusiasm is half done.
Do not look back…. till you reach your goal